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Verbal Violence
Articles by Satyanarayana Dasa

Verbal Violence

conflict between people

Non-violence (ahiṁsā) is a fundamental principle of dharma. “Do not be violent towards any living being” (mā hiṁsyāt sarva-bhūtāni) is a universally accepted injunction. Manu-smṛti describes non-violence as a dharma to be followed by all four varṇas (10.63). Nārada Ṛṣi says the same in Śrīmad Bhāgavata 7.10 .8. Non-violence is the first and most important rule (yama) in yoga (see Yoga Sūtra 2.30). Śrī Kṛṣṇa declares it the first of twelve essential rules and regulations in Śrīmad Bhāgavata 11.19.33, and in Gītā 13.7, He describes it as a means to attain spiritual knowledge.

All this gives us a clear understanding of how important non-violence is to any dharmic or spiritually progressive person. Indeed, it seems there may not be anything more dangerous to the progress of spirituality than violence. However, emotional and verbal violence, especially criticism (nindā), is even worse than physical violence (hiṁsa). Why is that?

Firstly, verbal violence leads to emotional violence, which leads to physical violence. Therefore, verbal violence is the root of it all, and thus singled out as the worst. We hear that “words are sharper than weapons.” A physical wound heals in due course of time, but the emotional wounds inflicted by words can remain painful and unhealed for the rest of one’s life. In this regard Kṛṣṇa tells Uddhava:

I have not seen a sādhu in this world, o Uddhava, who can remain peaceful at heart when pierced by the bitter words of a wicked person. Indeed, arrows in the heart do not torment as much as the sharp words of the wicked. (SB 11.23.2-3)

Here, Śrī Kṛṣṇa refers to the harsh words of a wicked person, but the pain is even greater if the harsh words are uttered by person who is supposed to be a sādhu. The words of the wicked can be ignored and forgiven, because the wicked are ignorant. Harsh words from a person who is not supposed to be so ignorant are much more difficult to digest and process.

Violence towards different types of people may not be equally reprehensible. Of all people, violence toward a sadhu—who have no intention to take anything from anyone or harm anyone in any way—is the worst of all possible forms of violence. It can ruin one’s spiritual life.

Therefore, on the path of bhakti, blasphemy of a devotee, sadhu-nindā, is the most egregious offence and should be avoided at all cost. It is listed as the foremost offence against the holy name of Kṛṣṇa.

Among all sādhus, one’s guru should be considered foremost. To stress this point, guru-nindā is often identified separately, although it could be included in the sadhu-nindā.

The entire Mahābhārata War was rooted in the harsh words of king Drupada towards his friend, Droṇa (see Ādi Parva, Chapter 129,130).

Drupada and Droṇa were classmates and good friends in their youth. Droṇa’s father had an āśrama, at which Drupada came to study. Drupada was a prince and Droṇa was a brāhmaṇa, so the young Drupada once said, “Droṇa, my friend, one day I will become king. Then, you can come to ask me for any help you need.” In time, Drupada grew up and indeed became king. Droṇa got married and lived as a very modest brāhmaṇa. He begot a son, Aśvatthāmā, but was so poor that he had trouble collecting enough milk to feed the child. He therefore went out to seek help.

He went first to Paraśurāma, who had vanquished kṣatriyas twenty-one times and owned the whole earth. Paraśurāma said he had already donated the earth and all his possessions to the brāhmanas via Kaśyapa. Drona, therefore, requested him to instead teach him the esoteric art of using divine weapons, which Paraśurāma happily did.

Still in need of wealth, he remembered his old friend and traveled to Drupada’s kingdom. Seeing Drupada, Droṇa said, “Remember me, old friend?” Drupada, did not want his ministers to think he would be friends with a destitute brāhmaṇa. He thus got angry and insulted Droṇa, “O brāhmaṇa, why you are uttering such foolish words? How can you be my friend? Friendship is between equals! I am a king and you are a pauper, so how can we be friends? Friendship is a fleeting thing. When we were children, we were friends, because we were both students. That has changed, we are no longer equals, so we are no longer friends. Get out of here!”

Droṇa was astonished, hurt and insulted. He could not digest such malicious words, and instead vowed to get revenge. So he became the martial arts instructor for the Kauravas and Pandavas. After instructing them, he asked them to capture Drupada as tuition. Drupada, a valiant fighter, chased them away, but Arjuna finally captured him and brought him to Droṇa like a slave. Droṇa said, “You wanted us to be equals? Fine. I am taking half of your kingdom. Now we can be friends again. You can return back to your kingdom now.” Drupada could not digest or process this harsh treatment and vowed revenge. He performed a yajña to get a son who would kill Droṇa in the Kurukṣetra war, Dhṛṣṭdyumna.

This story is a vivid example of how words affect emotions and how emotions affect actions, such that insults can lead to war and the death of so many people.

Harsh words, uttered once, cannot be retracted. Not only do they disturb the mind of the victim, they also make them react. Thus, a chain of criticism and countercriticism is set in motion. 

The wise will not attack someone verbally, with words of insult, but only the wisest of the wise will not react to such words. Therefore Kṛṣṇa told Uddhava that the pain caused by harsh words is irreparable and more painful than the wounds caused by arrows.

On the path of bhakti, criticism is especially detrimental to one’s progress. Bhakti, in essence, is love. And love involves relationships between people. Therefore, devotees should be thoughtful of the consequences of their words.

The age of the internet makes it even more difficult because we can criticize others very easily—not feeling the gravity of their physical presence. Thus, we have an even greater need for self-restraint in this day and age. Before commenting on social media, for example, it would be a good idea to imagine yourself speaking what you are typing directly to the person, face to face—and consider the possible effects before posting.


  • Anurag May 17, 2020

    How should one react when someone has wronged you? I find it challenging to apply this practically.

    What if someone tries to hurt you? Should I not react? I have had experiences in the past where people have tried to harm me. I find myself in the exact same situation as Drona or Drupada. I’ll be honest, I feel like getting even with those ppl.

    • Babaji May 23, 2020

      “How should one react when someone has wronged you? I find it challenging to apply this practically.”

      Every situation is different. Every person is different. It depends on what you want in life.

      “What if someone tries to hurt you? Should I not react? I have had experiences in the past where people have tried to harm me. I find myself in the exact same situation as Drona or Drupada. I’ll be honest, I feel like getting even with those ppl.”

      If you feel like getting even, then try it and see if that is beneficial for you. Sometimes getting even is also necessary. You have to contemplate on what is most beneficial for you, what will help you to stay focus on your goal and achieve it. If you are unable to decide, then learn from your own experience. Experience is a great teacher. If action is taken with proper deliberation, then you do not have to repent later on. Action done under the influence of strong emotions generally leads to suffering. That is my experience.

    • Anurag May 25, 2020

      Thank you Babaji

  • Parikshit Vats Chauhan May 18, 2020

    Also, one must not run away in the name of practicing nonviolence from situations that can be addressed only through violence — verbal or physical. Krishna says Arjuna to kill, not retreat. Surely, violence erupting out from egoic identification is to be abandoned.

    Jordan Peterson has aptly said: In order to be able to think one has to risk being offensive.

  • Acyutananda das May 18, 2020

    Before internet there was the international ‘Telex’ system. When Iskcon Mumbai temple was opened a devotee asked Srila Prabhupad ”Can we put in a Telex machine?” Prabhupad said ”No. It will create international prajalpa (gossip)”.

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