Question: I am bombarded by negative feelings (precisely dveṣa) when I have to deal with my extended relatives who are not on the path of bhakti. But when I deal with my work colleagues who are not Indian by birth, I am ok with them. I believe this difference is due to my expectations. How can I develop sama-dṛṣṭi towards everyone? How can I be free of these feelings at my kaniṣṭha stage of bhakti?
Answer: Just remember a few things:
- Everyone in the material world is conditioned. You may think they have freedom to act but in reality, they are being impelled by material nature.
- People are ignorant.
- To have expectations that they will change is a sure way to be unhappy.
- You cannot change anyone except yourself.
- It is your responsibility to change yourself.
- It is not your responsibility to change others.
- If you have changed yourself, you may be able to change others.
- Take care of your responsibility, and don’t waste time on the impossible task of changing others.
- Do not have unrealistic expectations of others.
Preaching
Question: I have learnt that distributing knowledge and preaching is a very important aspect of spiritual life. Is it necessary to preach in order to advance? Should I become a preacher?
Answer: First of all, it should be understood very clearly that the goal of spiritual life is not preaching or distributing knowledge. The goal is to become a devotee. Preaching is a side effect of that. But in any case, the first step is to learn śāstra properly from a qualified teacher. That is necessary to attain perfection and that is also necessary if one wants to preach and distribute knowledge. You cannot give knowledge if you don’t have it.
Therefore, my simple advice to you is to first understand śāstra properly, and to then decide whether you want to be a preacher.
Līlā
Question: Jaya and Vijaya in the form of Śiśupāla and Dantavakra got liberation and went to Vaikuṇṭha. How did they come back as Jagāi and Madhāi in Mahāprabhu’s līlā?
Answer: If you understand the meaning of the word līlā, you will be able to answer your own question. Līlā means play, therefore, they enacted the role of sinful people so that Mahāprabhu could manifest His grace on them.
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